To me if your partner is not taking the time to stimulate you properly then it is your job to show him or teach him how to do the job properly. Faking it robs you both of the sensual pleasures of love making. Stop it at once!
If you watch any love scene in the movies ( or porn....especially porn!), you are under the false impression that women will ( a) orgasm at the drop of the hat (b) orgasm through penetration only.
This is true - for a very small minority of the population. A mere 20 % of women can be brought to orgasm through penetration alone.
Twenty per cent!!
That is not a significant number but if you happen to be one of the lucky ones - congratulations. The fabulous Jill Hamilton of In Bed with married Women wrote an awesome blog on the "science" of orgasms and you can read it here
There have been articles written about the G spot and whether or not it exists ( read it here )
We are told that there are three types of orgasm; clitoral, vaginal and blended (read it here) or according to other articles I have read anything from 7 to 9 differing types of orgasm.
Are you starting to feel the pressure? Do you feel you could be missing out?
If you are spending time faking orgasms so as to ( a) not disappoint your partner, (b) make him hurry up and finish already or (c) just because then yes, you are definitely missing out. And guess what? So is your partner!
If you are regularly having orgasms, any kid of orgasm then congratulations!
Here are ten good reasons to increase the number of orgasms that you are having and if that's not enough inspiration for you consider this: The more sex you have the more your body wants it and the sexier you feel inside and out. As we age our sex drive can diminish and sex keeps everything in working order.
For females, as we go through menopause, our vagina's can suffer from dryness and thinning of the vaginal walls. The best remedy for this is regular sex. This will keep a good blood supply to the vaginal area thereby assisting with lubrication and thinning. The worst thing to do is to stop having sex! Once that happens the symptoms get worse which leads to the catch 22 of not wanting sex due to lack of lubrication because you are not having sex.
For males, as you age your erections become less firm and the refractory time between them becomes longer. Guess what? The less sex you are having the less firm your erections will become and the lower your sex drive.
Use it or lose it is a very real statement when it comes to sex and desire.